Marriage

It is not our anniversary nor Valentine’s Day nor any other significant day in our marriage. I just thought I’d tell you how much I love my husband.  We have been married for eleven years and two months. With how common divorce is now a days this is a great achievement.  But compared to someone who has been married twenty-five or fifty years our marriage has only begun. Therefore I am NOT an expert in marriage. But, I can tell you that for every one of those days, I have felt loved. I have felt beautiful and I have felt secure. Now don’t get me wrong, every one of those days has not been roses and bliss. Yes we’ve had our disagreements and arguments. But on our wedding day we both knew we did not believe in divorce. We knew that “for better or worse” meant for a lifetime. So when those non lovely days arrive we might disagree and argue but in the end we know that neither one of us are going anywhere. So we can either make each other’s lives miserable or we can enjoy each other’s company.  We have chosen to enjoy each other’s company. So when an argument is through we understand each other better and grow closer together and “making up” helps too.  Everyday my husband tells me that I am beautiful. I tease him about being obsessed with me.  Now I don’t know if this is the truth or if he has other motives.  But every day of our marriage he has made me feel beautiful. And let me tell you, feeling beautiful is much more important than being it.

So after eleven years here is my non expert marriage advice:

Change your perspective, marry someone who is obsessed with you, not just someone your obsessed with.

Wait until marriage. It is not too late to decide.  I know it may sound old fashioned but the modern way is not working. If you cannot be patient and show respect to one another while you are dating how will you be patient and respectful during your marriage. One secret to finding a good man: he is willing to wait.

Stick to your vows. Marriage is for a lifetime, and thou shall not kill, so make it work! Exhaust all resources.

It is okay to argue and disagree. Just make sure to come to an agreement, forgive, and make up!

Do not make each other miserable. Enjoy each other’s company. Create an environment that makes your spouse want to be with you.

For men's eyes only: make her FEEL beautiful

For women’s eyes only: make him FEEL competent and needed

To my loving husband, thank you for  being obsessed with me,  for showing me patience and respect, and for forgiving me and making up. Thank you for being a man I enjoy being around and most of all thank you for always making me feel beautiful. You are capable of all things and I will always need you.

Your loving wife,

Katrina